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Useful Numbers

Useful Numbers

 

Police (Emergency)999
Thames Valley Police (24 hrs)101
National Domestic Violence Helpline (24 hr freephone)0808 2000 247
National Stalking Helpline0808 802 0300
Forced Marriage Unit (Foreign Office)0207 008 0230
Council01908 691691
MK Council Homeless Team01908 253481
Police Domestic Abuse Unit01908 276103
Relate01908 310010
Samaritans0845 790 9090
The Female Genital Mutilation (24 hr freephone)0800 028 3550
The National LGBT+ Domestic abuse0800 999 5428
Social Services (out of hours)01908 265545
Men’s Advice Line0808 801 0327
Gallop LGBTQ National Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans+ Domestic Abuse Helpline0800 999 5428
Paladin-National Stalking Advocacy Service020 3866 4107
Sexual Assault and Support Services support01296 719 772
National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV)0844 8044 999
Free legal advice to anyone in the Thames Valley experiencing DAEmail

 

 

Useful Links

MK Council Homeless Dept

Homelessness, Rough Sleeper Outreach and Winter Night Shelter

MK Council Homeless Dept

Homelessness, Rough Sleeper Outreach and Winter Night Shelter

The Hideout

Support for children who may be experiencing domestic violence. The Hideout is the first national website to support children and young people living with violence at home.

The Hideout

Support for children who may be experiencing domestic violence. The Hideout is the first national website to support children and young people living with violence at home.

Refuge

Refuge provides specialist support to women, children and some men escaping domestic violence and other forms of violence.

Refuge

Refuge provides specialist support to women, children and some men escaping domestic violence and other forms of violence.

NCDV

NCDV provides a free, fast emergency service to survivors of domestic violence, working closely with partner agencies and help people apply for an injunction quickly. When legal aid is not applicable

NCDV

NCDV provides a free, fast emergency service to survivors of domestic violence, working closely with partner agencies and help people apply for an injunction quickly. When legal aid is not applicable

Safer MK

MK Community Safety

Safer MK

MK Community Safety

Respect

Respect Freephone  offers info and advice to domestic violence perpetrators, their (ex)partners, friends and family and to frontline workers who come into contact with perpetrators.

Respect

Respect Freephone  offers info and advice to domestic violence perpetrators, their (ex)partners, friends and family and to frontline workers who come into contact with perpetrators.

Safe Lives

SafeLives are a UK-wide charity dedicated to ending domestic abuse, for everyone and for good.

Safe Lives

SafeLives are a UK-wide charity dedicated to ending domestic abuse, for everyone and for good.

Women’s Aid Online Resources

The Survivors Handbook: Advice about finances, housing etc. with translations in different languages.

Women’s Aid Online Resources

The Survivors Handbook: Advice about finances, housing etc. with translations in different languages.

Mens Advice Line

The MALE helpline provides a range of services aimed primarily at men experiencing domestic abuse from their partner.

Mens Advice Line

The MALE helpline provides a range of services aimed primarily at men experiencing domestic abuse from their partner.

Flag DV

Free legal advice to anyone in the Thames Valley experiencing Domestic Abuse

Flag DV

Free legal advice to anyone in the Thames Valley experiencing Domestic Abuse

Q:Alliance

Q:alliance provides and enables information, support, representation and fun for all Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) people who live, work or play in Milton Keynes.

Q:Alliance

Q:alliance provides and enables information, support, representation and fun for all Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) people who live, work or play in Milton Keynes.

galop lgbt+

If you’ve experienced hate crime, sexual violence or domestic abuse, we’re here for you. We also support lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer people who have had problems with the criminal justice system.

galop lgbt+

If you’ve experienced hate crime, sexual violence or domestic abuse, we’re here for you. We also support lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer people who have had problems with the criminal justice system.

Women's Aid Online Safety Tips

Information about how to protect yourself from online stalking / monitoring

Women's Aid Online Safety Tips

Information about how to protect yourself from online stalking / monitoring

Stay Safe

Making A Safety Plan

A personal safety plan is a way of helping you to protect yourself and your children. It helps you plan in advance for the possibility of future violence and abuse. It also helps you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you decide to leave.

You cannot stop your partner’s violence and abuse – only they can do that. But there are things you can do to increase your own and your children’s safety:

Tips on making a plan

Tell Someone

If you are experiencing abuse it is important to tell someone before it gets worse. If what you are experiencing is particularly serious go into your local police station for help or if you or your family are in immediate danger don’t be afraid to call the police on 999.

If you feel you can’t go to the police it is still important to tell someone what is happening to you. This could be a trusted friend or colleague or you can speak to local advice service MK ACT for support.

During an incident of abuse or violence try to get out if you can. If it is safe for you to do so, call 999 for the police. If you can’t get out, stay away from the kitchen, bathroom, garage or other potentially dangerous room. Call for help if you can, your neighbours may hear you and call 999 for you.

Since you know your abuser’s actions and behaviour, you can use this knowledge and build a safety plan. Your plan may include some of the following:

  • Practice how you will leave your home safely in an emergency
  • Devise a signal or code word that lets family or friends know to call the police
  • Teach your children how to call 999
  • Tell trusted family or friends what is going on
  • Take your children with you or make arrangements to leave them with someone else.
  • Arrange to have a safe place to go to
  • Keep a small amount of money on you at all times – including change for the phone and for bus fares
  • Know where the nearest phone is, and if you have a mobile phone, try to keep it with you
  • Prepare a bag of clothes, medication and other essentials for yourself and your children. Hide the bag where you can get to it in a hurry if you have to leave quickly
  • Make several copies of important papers and keep one set in the bag (other copies could go to trusted friends or left somewhere safe at work). You will need things such as proof of identity, driving licence, birth certificates, passports, financial/insurance information, benefit books or letters, court orders etc.
  • Keep your address book and diary with you
  • If you have a car, make an extra set of keys and hide them where you can get to them if you need to.
Need more help

If you have already left the relationship and are still being harassed:

  • Make friends, relatives, neighbours and colleagues aware of what is going on. Tell teachers at your children’s school, so that they are better able to help if you need them to
  • Try not to isolate yourself. Work out the safest routes to and from home, school, work, etc. and use them. If you can’t do this try to travel with someone else
  • Consider changing the locks and the telephone number and you could reinforce doors and windows.
  • If you have moved home or your partner/ex-partner has left your home due to a restraining order, but you are still being harassed at your home, make sure doors and windows are locked, call the police, take pictures of any damage done to your home and keep any abusive letters to show to the police. Make sure you have smoke alarms fitted in your hallway.
More Advice

Reporting an Incident

When you report an incident(s) of domestic violence or abuse, it is important to give as many of the following details as possible:

  • Date, time & place the incident occurred
  • What happened (what was said or done, threats made etc)
  • Who has abused you and their relationship to you
  • Details of anyone who has witnessed the abuse
  • Any evidence of the incident (e.g. photographs of damage to you or your property, e-mails, phone calls, letters etc).
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